With all of the recent talk about a War on Women and the stuff that I discussed in an earlier post, it’s no surprise that I have run into even more bigotry toward women. This time I didn’t even look for it in the form of research or expect to hear anything but comedy.

I turned on the Foxhole radio station the other night expecting to hear some stand up comedy. For those who aren’t aware, the Foxhole is a comedy radio station on Satellite radio, it’s billed as comedy for African Americans but they play a diverse array of comedians like Bill Burr, George Lopez, and plenty of others. Anyway, I forgot that around ten or eleven at night is when they do all of their talk shows on the weeknights. So I found myself listening to The Zo Williams show (called The Voice of Reason). Normally I would have switched it off or put the iPod on or something. But I heard comedian Corey Holcomb and he’s a pretty funny guy so I’ll see what’s up.

The topic was about family and women when I first got there and the main point that Holcomb had was that women who had sex with men outside of marriage were automatically sluts and that it was these sluts that were ruining society. He went on to add the white man in along with the sluts as being the people ruining society, but he kept homing in on how sluts were ruining the family and the idea of family and that this was in turn spreading through society like a cancer.

Now let’s forget the fact that other people have opinions. We all know this is grade-A bullshit, and I’m sorry—there’s really no other word to call it—the most worrying thing about all of this is the call in response. I think both the host, Zo, and I were shocked because the lines on the phones were lighting up but all of the callers were basically agreeing with Corey. I think maybe twelve women called in and out of them all of them said that he was right. Some of them admitted to being these sluts themselves.

Corey, nothing I have to say here will change your opinion. How you feel about women is probably shaped by something you’ve gone through and while I think you’re inherently and thoroughly wrong, you’re not the one I think that really matters in this equation because you’re going to think what you think and it’s hard to change something that’s so set into a person.

But the thing I wanted to say is that the opinions of these women, that they’re whores and home wreckers and that’s all that they’ll ever be, is horrible. While many of them might be beyond the point that their opinions of themselves can be changed (the same way that some of the men out there are beyond that point with their ideals of women), my main goal is to really write something that doesn’t paint the picture of women we’re used to seeing in popular fiction.

People need to know that women are out there after more than just money and men. People need to see strong female characters who are written into plots where the author buys into a culture that treats women like second class citizens and men like they’re the only ones who can take any sort of action in a plot.

All the while we need to make sure that while we recognize the double standards, characters aren’t bound by them and that they can rise above them. We don’t need to hide the ugly part of society, but make your character about more than that. There are a lot of people out there who are more than a stereotype and there are plenty who want to read about more than that. I really believe that’s there to be tapped into.

If it teaches someone that they’re more than these names people call them or that they’re not evil just because they were born into privilege and that they don’t have to be ashamed of where they come from even better. Uplifting fiction doesn’t have to be literary and without a little action. You can draw comparisons to the real world in a lot of places.

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