The Red Room of Pain

fifty-shades-of-grey-cac1d39d5bb5c20810b1314bcbf61dee35d8219b-s6-c30I’m only closing in on the halfway point of Fifty Shades of Grey now, after several months of not touching the book I decided that since I paid for it I had better read the damn thing. It’s truly proving to be a taxing experience. I would say that without knowing exactly what’s coming up when they reach the actual place that the idea of a red room with torture implements sums up this book pretty nicely.

The characters a stale and for the most part it’s easy to see how she drew inspiration from Twilight . The male lead reads like a control freak to the point that I am wondering how the women reading this book weren’t seeing red flags all around them. I would call the writing amateurish, but that would be a disgrace to armatures.

There are times when it’s clear that she needs a better editor and other times where it’s clear she lacks confidence in what she writes. Sometimes a passable attempt at not telling will be quickly followed up up by her explaining everything and thus telling.

I’m going to hold off the final judgment until finish the book. But I did finish Ten Little Aliens and I have to say that it’s to date the best Doctor Who book I’ve read.

Seeking a Friend for the End of the World

MV5BMTk4MDQ1NzE3N15BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwMjA0MDkzNw@@._V1._SX509_SY755_Still in San Antonio and watching Seeking a Friend for the End of the World with two of my friends…I have to say that I really don’t like Keira Knightley. I’m finding that she kind of ruins films for me. Not sure what it is about her. I just find her pretty obnoxious, though I can’t quite put my finger on what it is about her.

I was kind of enjoying the a movie at first, but then she showed up. I had hoped that another actress would be the lead. I forget her name, but she’s from Two and A Half Men.

Planning on finishing this out, but at the same time I am starting to see why it has a 6.7 on IMDB.

Ten Little Aliens

Doctor_Who_10_little_aliens_50thThis is a short post just to say that I am reading the Doctor Who novel Ten Little Aliens. It’s actually a First Doctor adventure and though I haven’t had much experience with that Doctor, I have to say that this book is fantastic so far. Doctor Who has never been this gritty and rough in the show. I’m sure I will have more to say after I finish it.

The Silent Stars Go By

Doctor_Who_The_Silent_Stars_go_By_50thThe Silent Stars Go By by Dan Abnett is the perfect example of a great concept book with a slightly poor execution. It’s the final book in the 50th Anniversary re-release of eleven Doctor Who novels, each one highlighting a different one of the Doctor’s regenerations.

I found the book to be engaging and a fun read. The second half felt a lot better put together than the first half and despite some small issues with how Amy and the Doctor were characterized, namely that they began to feel more like caricatures than in character, I would still recommend this book. The plot and the ideas in the book are very, very well thought out and the twist seems almost like an episode of the show except that it’s a bit darker.

That tends to be what the Doctor Who books do best, explore the dark corners that the show dare not tread in. I like that. I like the idea of being able to join my favorite Doctor at different points in his history and seeing the things he did between the episodes. I don’t think there are enough tie-in novels to current shows like that.

On the recommendation of a friend I’m reading another Doctor Who novel starring the first Doctor that’s also part of the same chain of novels. This one is called Ten Little Aliens. I started it and I have to say it’s already looking rather mature and impressive.

So, Kickstarter Actually Cares

PrintKickstarter released this blog post in reference to some complaints raised about a so called seduction guide. I actually talked about it in my last post. Well, in what seems to be becoming more and more of a thing of the past Kickstarter actually showed that they cared what their patrons and supporters thing when they responded to the blog post that I linked in my last post.

Their response can be found here.

The reason that I’m putting this response on here is because I don’t want to be known for pandering to one side of the story. These guys did the stand up thing and came out and addressed the issue head on. You might want to call it damage control, but it seems more like corporate transparency and caring about the service that they offer. At least to me it does.

So I just wanted to throw that out there.

You Should Be a Rapist

So some nerd has decided that he has the key to getting women in bed and seduction and so on and so forth. This isn’t some new thing for the internet or the writing world. I’ve seen at least a dozen different pickup gurus out there writing these kinds of books and trying to pilfer money from lonely guys who expect some get-laid-quick scheme to work in their favor. Most of the time the books spend a good deal of their page space talking women down, belittling them so that the man reading it can feel like he holds all the power. They often tell you to take a role like that with women to get their attention and to get them to respect you.

At their core, there’s a good deal of misogyny there. But most of them at least tell you that when a woman refuses your advances the gig is up. Even if they tell you to slow it down and back off some, most don’t say to press on—she really wants it. You know, because that’s basically a chart topper on the Rape Anthems soundtrack.

But in the link here this guy discusses what he saw on the Reddit by this book’s author.

This is a nightmare.
Watching the video, reading the description, it sounds fairly innocent but a little eye-roll inducing. It’s another book where some nerd, desperate to be liked by women (this is not an insult, we are ALL desperate to be liked by someone we want to have sex with) thinks he’s figured out some cheat code or check-list like routine they can run in a bar to make women sleep with them, as if women aren’t people but a series of subroutines or an obstacle course that they can optimize to get their dick wet as fast as possible. And he’s written that advice down! And he’s selling it! To you! You could learn his cheat codes. This is nothing new for the internet. In fact, a large swath of this book was published already on Reddit. What’s new is that he’s crowdfunding it. 

And sure, you might think this is sad or dumb or that this guy is just another lonely dude talking to other lonely dudes who’ll head out into the night with their fedoras to failure, right? Not a big deal? Oops, turns out we’re wrong, because here are some excerpts from what he’s already put on Reddit –
5) Get CLOSE to her, damn it!

To quote Rob Judge, “Personal space is for pussies.” I already told you that the most successful seducers are those who can’t keep their hands off of women. Well you’re not gonna be able to do that if you aren’t in close! ”

“All the greatest seducers in history could not keep their hands off of women. They aggressively escalated physically with every woman they were flirting with. They began touching them immediately, kept great body language and eye contact, and were shameless in their physicality. Even when a girl rejects your advances, she KNOWS that you desire her. That’s hot. It arouses her physically and psychologically.”

“Decide that you’re going to sit in a position where you can rub her leg and back. Physically pick her up and sit her on your lap. Don’t ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances.”

Sex

Pull out your cock and put her hand on it. Remember, she is letting you do this because you have established yourself as a LEADER. Don’t ask for permission, GRAB HER HAND, and put it right on your dick.”

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SO. Now I am no longer rolling my eyes.

This guy is no longer just being weird and creepy on the internet. Now he’s writing a book about how to sexually assault women, and he is using something I believe in (Kickstarter) to ask YOU for money to do it. I am offended as someone who believes in the platform, and more importantly I am offended as someone who believes women shouldn’t be treated this way, and that people who say otherwise CERTAINLY should not profit off saying they should. 

This isn’t harmless. People come to these boards because they are scared of being humiliated, and they are saying to the world, “Tell me what to do, because I don’t know what to do.” And this guy has chosen to tell them, “You should be a rapist.” 

There’s largely nothing we can do about people saying this shit on a place like Reddit – Reddit’s a mess for another time – but let’s get it off of Kickstarter. The project is funded in 10 hours – and unfortunately a lot of those are sleeping hours – but PLEASE report it to Kickstarter, please tweet @Kickstarter asking them to take it down, and PLEASE do not let something cool be used for the UGLIEST thing imaginable.

I just wanted to put this out there for others to see. This isn’t hard, I mean this shit is baby-town frolics—if a woman says no or tries to shy away from your advances then you stop. Hell, if a woman doesn’t seem to be into it and you have to question your advances, you should stop. There’s no excuse for forcing yourself on someone and no one owes you sex or any sexual favors.

Hard to Believe

tellallyourfriends1Ten years ago, I was still in high school and I discovered the band Taking Back Sunday when I was at a Blink-182 concert here in town. They were opening and I didn’t know them, had never even heard them mentioned. But I was blown away by the raw vocals and the style of the music.

I picked their CD up from the store later that week and I have bought every CD of theirs since. Yesterday they released an acoustic recording of their first album, the one I bought ten years ago, Tell All Your Friends now the old lineup is back together and I just have to say it’s pretty damn amazing to hear these guys perform those songs after the distance that they’ve come.

There’s something so simple about the feeling of an old song you know all the lyrics to being done by the old band in a new way. I was still just discovering music when all of this went down, but I don’t think any other band has remained a part of what I regularly listen to as long as this one.

Hardest part is believing that it’s been ten years.