So some nerd has decided that he has the key to getting women in bed and seduction and so on and so forth. This isn’t some new thing for the internet or the writing world. I’ve seen at least a dozen different pickup gurus out there writing these kinds of books and trying to pilfer money from lonely guys who expect some get-laid-quick scheme to work in their favor. Most of the time the books spend a good deal of their page space talking women down, belittling them so that the man reading it can feel like he holds all the power. They often tell you to take a role like that with women to get their attention and to get them to respect you.
At their core, there’s a good deal of misogyny there. But most of them at least tell you that when a woman refuses your advances the gig is up. Even if they tell you to slow it down and back off some, most don’t say to press on—she really wants it. You know, because that’s basically a chart topper on the Rape Anthems soundtrack.
But in the link here this guy discusses what he saw on the Reddit by this book’s author.
This is a nightmare.
Watching the video, reading the description, it sounds fairly innocent but a little eye-roll inducing. It’s another book where some nerd, desperate to be liked by women (this is not an insult, we are ALL desperate to be liked by someone we want to have sex with) thinks he’s figured out some cheat code or check-list like routine they can run in a bar to make women sleep with them, as if women aren’t people but a series of subroutines or an obstacle course that they can optimize to get their dick wet as fast as possible. And he’s written that advice down! And he’s selling it! To you! You could learn his cheat codes. This is nothing new for the internet. In fact, a large swath of this book was published already on Reddit. What’s new is that he’s crowdfunding it.
And sure, you might think this is sad or dumb or that this guy is just another lonely dude talking to other lonely dudes who’ll head out into the night with their fedoras to failure, right? Not a big deal? Oops, turns out we’re wrong, because here are some excerpts from what he’s already put on Reddit –
”5) Get CLOSE to her, damn it!
To quote Rob Judge, “Personal space is for pussies.” I already told you that the most successful seducers are those who can’t keep their hands off of women. Well you’re not gonna be able to do that if you aren’t in close! ”
“All the greatest seducers in history could not keep their hands off of women. They aggressively escalated physically with every woman they were flirting with. They began touching them immediately, kept great body language and eye contact, and were shameless in their physicality. Even when a girl rejects your advances, she KNOWS that you desire her. That’s hot. It arouses her physically and psychologically.”
“Decide that you’re going to sit in a position where you can rub her leg and back. Physically pick her up and sit her on your lap. Don’t ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances.”
Pull out your cock and put her hand on it. Remember, she is letting you do this because you have established yourself as a LEADER. Don’t ask for permission, GRAB HER HAND, and put it right on your dick.”
SO. Now I am no longer rolling my eyes.
This guy is no longer just being weird and creepy on the internet. Now he’s writing a book about how to sexually assault women, and he is using something I believe in (Kickstarter) to ask YOU for money to do it. I am offended as someone who believes in the platform, and more importantly I am offended as someone who believes women shouldn’t be treated this way, and that people who say otherwise CERTAINLY should not profit off saying they should.
This isn’t harmless. People come to these boards because they are scared of being humiliated, and they are saying to the world, “Tell me what to do, because I don’t know what to do.” And this guy has chosen to tell them, “You should be a rapist.”
There’s largely nothing we can do about people saying this shit on a place like Reddit – Reddit’s a mess for another time – but let’s get it off of Kickstarter. The project is funded in 10 hours – and unfortunately a lot of those are sleeping hours – but PLEASE report it to Kickstarter, please tweet @Kickstarter asking them to take it down, and PLEASE do not let something cool be used for the UGLIEST thing imaginable.
I just wanted to put this out there for others to see. This isn’t hard, I mean this shit is baby-town frolics—if a woman says no or tries to shy away from your advances then you stop. Hell, if a woman doesn’t seem to be into it and you have to question your advances, you should stop. There’s no excuse for forcing yourself on someone and no one owes you sex or any sexual favors.